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But somewhere among books like I Kissed Dating Goodbye, a lack of relationship role models and trying to navigate the minefield that is modern dating, something changed for our generation.
A number of problematic attitudes crept into Christian culture.
When Sally, a Brit, arrived in Madrid five years ago she had the rather unrealistic expectation that Javier Bardem lookalikes would be queuing up to sweep her off her feet. Now in her early 30s and a seasoned veteran of the dating scene she tells the Local how to avoid the pitfalls of a Spanish mummy´s boy and the perils of communicating through the language barrier.
Here are Sally´s top ten tips for navigating the perilous path to true love in Spain.
If you seem like a cool chica who is low maintenance and won´t get jealous because they want some time out with the boys, you´ll come across as a breath of fresh air in Spain.
7 - Forget about timekeeping Photo of a woman with clock: Shutterstock Don't expect fixed plans days in advance with a slow build up, or even a clear idea of what you will be doing and when.
It’s a problem that affects many of our brothers in Christ—it might even be affecting you.
Finally, it’s a problem that’s disappointing many of the young Christian women in our lives. My father has many memories of giving the cute girl from youth group a ride home on the handlebars of his bicycle, while my grandfather had something of a reputation for dancing with all the eligible young ladies at Christian fundraisers.
He is stumbling to the bathroom to throw up on his shoes and I am searching for the shots menu.Spanish men typically are still living at home until well into their 30s so his mum is likely to be the queen of his world (who irons his pants and gives him a Tupperware to take to the office).I avoided this by always trying to choose men whose family lived in another city, or preferably another country. 2 - Take a dictionary Photo of a man with a dictionary: Shutterstock At intercambios (language exchanges) you won´t just be swapping your mother tongues.If you arrive on time, you´ll be sipping your two euro glass of rueda totally alone for at least 20 minutes to half an hour.
8 - Beware the Rodriguez phenomenon Photo of a man hiding his wedding ring: Shutterstock When a married Spanish man gets left alone in the big city in the summer while his long suffering wife takes the kids to the beach house, watch out! 9 - Tear up the rules of seduction Photo of a man whispering in a woman´s ear: Shutterstock Being used to a rather less seductive approach of picking up women from my British exes, I was happily surprised at the way in which Spanish men played the game.
Sally Fazakerley is a British woman in her early 30s who has been living in Madrid since 2010.