Dating to exclusive
This conversation sends the message that the past will stay in the past and you’ve moved on. I am very happy (and he said that he is happy when he is with me) and like him the more I get to know him.But, I am equally scared of pushing for something that is happening naturally and perhaps making him feel pressured and stressed about something that is easy and great, naturally. If I talk with him, how do I bring up being exclusive so that he doesn’t feel pressured?And, if I don’t talk with him immediately, when is the right time to talk about being exclusive (if he doesn’t bring it up)? I’m going to give you a cheat sheet to tell you the most effective way to get into a relationship with a new guy.I trust him and know that he is being honest, but now that we have slept with each other, it makes me feel vulnerable and nervous.
Just wait to see if he’s acting like a boyfriend FIRST; don’t treat him like one until he’s earned it. Practice sexclusivity (particularly if you can’t handle no-strings-attached sex) I’ve written about this extensively, so I won’t rehash the entire argument.To the original poster’s point, you really shouldn’t have to “bring up” whether he’s your boyfriend.It’s the kind of thing that will be defined naturally by him calling you every day, spending every weekend with you, introducing you to his friends and family, and so on.That does not inherently make this an effective strategy. Don’t stop seeing other guys until he’s acting like your boyfriend In my 11 years as a dating coach, I’ve repeatedly seen the power of chemistry.
After emailing with a bunch of losers online, she meets a guy whose profile knocks her socks off.
But, we recently slept together (it felt right and was great).